L’inquiétude est une forme de ruminative concernant l’avenir ou le passé. L’inquiétude se manifeste dans le Cortex préfrontal et peut mener à l’Anxiété.
L’inquiétude n’a pas de raison d’être car soit tu ne peux rien y faire et tu peux rester Calme, soit tu dois agir et alors il suffit d’agir dans le calme.
Notre égo pense que s’inquiéter est une bonne chose
“Each time we worry and nothing bad happens, our mind connects worry with preventing harm,” explains Dr Seth Gillihan, a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. We unconsciously think that, after all, it was a good thing that we worried.
Paradoxically, because many of the things we worry about may never happen, or may have not objectively happened, our mind may interpret it in a way that assumes worrying was what prevented the negative event to happen.
Pourquoi les gens s’inquiètent ?
A study assessing positive beliefs about worry identified four main factors which may explain why worrying feels, paradoxically, so rewarding:
1. Proactive problem solving. We feel like worrying helps us be more aware of a situation and be better prepared to face it. It might encourage us to come up with more alternative ways to solve a potential problem and avoid the most negative consequences. We see worry as a tool to adopt more productive attitudes, making us responsible, prudent people—the adults in the room. This factor is particularly relevant for people who are problem-solvers. There’s a fine line between worrying and problem-solving. Worrying is about letting your mind dwell on problems without a systematic approach, often leading to anxiety. Problem-solving is about applying creative strategies and mental models to specific problems.
2. Protection from negative emotions. Worrying feels like it may help us not be caught off guard and be less disappointed if something bad actually happens. We feel like we won’t be as upset if we predicted that particular negative outcome.
3. Positive self-perception. We might see a tendency to worry as a positive personality trait. Worrying about other people may confirm—in our own eyes or the eyes of others—that we are a sensitive, considerate, caring person. We may even feel like people around us would be disappointed if we didn’t worry about them. We basically conflate worrying with being a good person.
4. Magical thinking. Finally, we may think that the act of worrying itself can reduce the risk of something bad happening, which, for some people, can be superstitious.
Solution
Ce que tu fuis n’existe pas et ce que tu cherches est déjà là alors pourquoi s’inquiéter?
Sources :
- Ness Labs: Why We Worry
- https://nesslabs.com/worrying-well