Ton expérience est liée à tes besoins d’évolution donc parfois il ne sert à rien de vouloir sauver les gens. Ils doivent vivre l’Expérience par eux-mêmes. Ce discours d’Alan Watts exprime très bien ce phénomène
Seven Types of People You Must Stop Helping
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The Chronically Lazy: There is a difference between someone who is struggling (who will use help as a stepping stone) and someone who has given up (who uses help as a hammock). By constantly carrying their weight, you rob them of the satisfaction, strength, and discovery of their own capability. They need to feel the pain and discomfort of their choices to be motivated to change.
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The Perpetually Ungrateful: These individuals believe the world owes them and see your help as their right, not a gift. They do not acknowledge the sacrifice, and the more you give, the more entitled they become. Helping them is like “throwing seeds into a bottomless pit” that will never be filled.
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The Arrogant and Self-Righteous: They don’t want help; they want validation. They are suffering from excessive pride and are terrified of being wrong, as their identity is built on being right. They must be humbled and experience the consequences of their pride before they are ready to receive any wisdom or help.
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The Habitually Wicked: These are people who lie, cheat, and manipulate with no remorse and have made wickedness their way of life. When you help them, you become an accomplice and enable them to continue doing harm. They will use your resources not to change, but to go deeper into their destructive path.
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The Incurably Foolish: They are not unintelligent, but they refuse to learn, repeating the same mistakes despite advice and past consequences. If you keep intervening in their repeated crises, you prevent life’s consequences from doing the necessary teaching work. They will pull you under if you try to save them, as they refuse to grab the life preserver.
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The Master Manipulator: The most dangerous type, they do not demand help but come with compelling stories and use your kindness and guilt against you. They play on your emotions to make you want to give, and when you stop, they will turn on you and paint you as the villain. Helping them only feeds their system of games.
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The Unrepentant Rebel: This person knows better but refuses to do better. They are defiant, preferring what is wrong despite being warned and corrected. You cannot want their healing more than they want it, and until the desire for change comes from within them, all your help will make no difference.
Conclusion: The Wisdom of Stepping Back
The speaker concludes that the goal is not to become cold, but to acquire discernment. True compassion sometimes requires stepping back and allowing people to hit bottom, as this hardship is often the catalyst for a much-needed wakeup call. Your energy, time, and resources are precious, and you must be wise about where you invest them. The most loving thing you can do for certain people is to let them experience the full weight of their own choices.
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