La qualité des questions que tu te poses détermine ta qualité de ta vie — Julien Musy
Coaching questions Cheatsheet
Principe du questionnement
En tant que guide, tu veux poser des questions :
- qui t’aident à Comprendre ce que les gens veulent, comme par exemple : Où est-ce que tu vas? Comment je peux aider?
- qui aider les autres à évoluer dans leur quête. Les gens sont les héros de leur propre histoire et tu veux les guider vers la suite sans tout faire à leur place : plutôt que de donner des réponses à leur problèmes, Laisse les gens trouver leur propre réponse en posant des questions ouvertes :
- Quel est le problème que tu veux résoudre ?
- Quelles options considères-tu ?
- À quoi ressemble ta prochaine étape ?
Équilibre entre direction et questions ouvertes
I tend to seed questions with an answer in mind. I say things like: have you thought about {option A}? or should we test {idea B}?
These types of questions are useful when you’re in a crunch and need an immediate answer, especially as an individual contributor.
But most of the time, they deprive others of the opportunity to figure things out on their own. When people figure out an answer, they’re more excited to take action.
Having strong opinions (even if weakly held) is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it drives clarity and momentum. On the other, it removes oxygen for competing opinions. When everything’s already determined, there’s little incentive for others to contribute their perspective. People lose an important muscle.
You should still develop your own POV, but start with more open-ended questions.
Closed: _Should we do X to move Y?
_Open: What are the most important things given goal Y?
Closed (and judgmental): _Aren’t you too busy to take on this project?
_Open: What are your priorities? How committed are you to doing X?
Closed: _Any questions?
_Open: What questions do you have?
Open-ended questions help you calibrate people. If they’re lost, you can set the expectations that you will lean in more. If they’re on the right track, you can focus on guiding their direction instead of managing the details.
Follow-up questions are extra special. They nudge you to listen carefully, and help you learn more about others.
Here’s a rule of thumb I’ve observed: people new to a task tend to learn faster by seeing a model answer; people familiar with a task are more empowered by learning through questions. But everyone benefits from starting with open-ended questions.
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Liens : Coaching Leadership Être un guide, pas un héros Des questions pour garder le cap Questions de lâcher-prise questions pour gérer les ruminations.pdf
https://www.productlessons.xyz/article/ask-better-questions See here for more examples of closed vs. open questions.